Porn for Women Finally Arrives (Thanks to Oprah, Sex and the City, and Chronicle Books)

Posted on August 19th, 2008 in GameLink,Porn for Women by admin

Over a year ago Chronicle Books published a book titled “Porn for Women” that engendered so much controversy, that if you didn’t know, you would assume it contained content like the free porn for women list we just published at GameLink. In fact the book featured photos of men, fully clothed doing housework. One of the top complaints they received, as reported on the blog post “Porn for Women (But Apparently Not All Women)” was that readers felt they had assumed that these images
“will appeal to all women because women respond sexually as one robotic Borg.”

Women use Men as a Floormat in this fetish porn movie (NSFW) In the spirit of offering women the full range of options for their sexual pleasure we urge Chronicle to approve our comment for the benefit of readers who were so miffed at their suggestions. Surely this move, like the list we offered this week, will bring about lots more uproar. If you are offended by the idea that women might want to watch actual pornography, please see the above link and enjoy Chronicle’s immensely popular book.

In case you are tempted to write the rest of us off as fringe deviants, I offer this: On August 4th, 2008, Oprah Winfrey hosted a surprising discussion on her daily TV show, entitled ‘237 Reasons to Have Sex.’ On the show she talks to women who watch porn, therapists who recommend porn for the 43% of women who experience sexual dysfunction, and married people who enjoy porn for couples. According to the show, $1 out of every $4 spent on porn is spent by a woman. Well, if porn is like anything else Oprah touches, we expect that figure to rise. Couple that with shows and blockbuster films about sexual liberation of women like “Sex and the City,” and “Swingtown” and we see a new market for porn emerging.

Contrast these events with another milestone for porn…the demise of Playgirl Magazine. Over on Boinkology, one of our favorite sex blogs, there’s much speculation as to why this occurred.Many of the comments pointed out that the style of the magazine is out of step with what modern women want. This assessment jives with what we heard as we polled women about what type of porn they would like to see. Many expressed frustration with the lack of variety in lists of porn selected for women. If you look at most social networks you find lots of sexually adventurous women expressing every variety of kink known to men. So why do people think that we only want soft lighting and sweet romantic stories of monogamous men with perfect abs and tans — and limp penises?

I have no idea, but I set out to fix this problem and offer you a new approach to porn for women. I argue that the most liberating thing for us in this time is to explore our fantasies. Women deserve to give ourselves permission to like what we like, not what we THINK we SHOULD like. For myself and most of the women I spoke with, as long as a sex act is safe, sane and consensual, it’s ok. Exploring new kinks through porn is a safe way to find out new things that turn you on before you try them in real life. How do you know you don’t like something you have never even seen before? How can you even assume you don’t like porn based on that one movie you saw in college while half drunk at a party?

So ladies, I give you porn movies for women. It’s an article/discussion followed by a hand-picked list of titles gathered by polling the top writers of sex blogs, female employees of GameLink, our top affiliate who targets women who love porn, and anyone else lacking a Y chromosome who had seen enough porn to opine. I have taken the liberty to organize it by the short list of orientations, so here’s a shortcut to the porn for straight women, porn for bisexual women (and bi-curious) , and porn for lesbians (and bisexuals who don’t want to see men in porn).

This is an experiment. We hope it starts a discussion that we invite you to join in, here on our blog, on GameLink’s Facebook page, or myspace page. If you prefer a less public forum, the email for our editorial department is at the end of the article.

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